I was at a paediatric psychology network conference and listened to a very interesting presentation on positive personal growth following trauma or illness (Green 2009) and I wondered if this linked to psoriasis in any way.
This presentation highlighted the surprising evidence that many people do well after ill health or having something traumatic happen to them. In some cases, they do even better than those who have not had a similar traumatic experience.
The speaker gave lots of evidence. Of a group of adults who had been abused as children, 45% were classified as resilient and had no psychological problems. When compared to a group of adults who had not been abused they were actually functioning better. The same story was seen in a large sub group of children and adults who were involved in the ferry disasters, Herald of Free Enterprise and The Jupiter, in the 1990s. The same pattern is seen in survivors of cancer and heart attacks, women with impaired fertility and even in those who have lost a child.
So what does this mean? I don’t think the evidence suggests that people ‘benefit’ from these awful events. They are affected and no doubt those who have lost loved ones or even aspects of their own functioning still grieve, but these events and illnesses have helped them to reflect and perhaps value the good things in life. We heard a very moving quote from a father who had lost two daughters in the Hillsborough disaster “It sounds ridiculous, I know, but I think I have come out of it a better person. But I’ll always be a chipped cup…..” (Times Online)
So how does this relate to psoriasis? Can we find anything good from this condition? I did struggle with this at first being so focussed on the negatives (flaking, itching, soreness, embarrassment). But thinking away from the immediate symptoms I do think of myself as a caring person, I don’t judge a book by its cover and I am empathic. Would I have chosen to be a clinical psychologist had I grown up blemish free? I don’t know the answer to that. I would quite happily give my psoriasis away (any takers? No?) but it has taught me to cope with life’s challenges and it has taught me not to worry about the small things. A bad hair day would not have me diving under the duvet like many people I know. It has made me think about the connection between alcohol and psoriasis in a new light too. Perhaps we are not drinking to forget, maybe we are just enthusiastic party animals!